How to better "speak" to my children in the ways they need

I read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and appreciate his basic premise (though I usually don't ever agree with or hold 100% to any one theory). I haven't read his book based on the same ideas geared for children but would like to and appreciate the ideas from this chart. I often struggle to be attentive and focused with my children and I need to be more attuned to how I can best meet their needs and ways that are most meaningful to them.